We have provided a guide to help customers better understand that the size of your dildo is very important in ensuring that you are getting something that is comfortable for you and/or your lover. A common mistake is assuming that bigger is always better. If the dildo is too long it can hit the cervix of your female lover and cause pain and if it is too wide it can cause uncomfortable vaginal stretching and even tearing which can be painful. Make sure that you are very clear about what would be comfortable for you and/or your lover by determining the size you desire before you purchase a dildo.
Diameter Vs. Circumference
Make sure to understand the difference between circumference and diameter when assessing how large your dildo is going to be.
If you are unsure about what size might be appropriate, consider how many fingers you can comfortably insert into yourself or your partner during play. For introductory anal play, for example, a single finger might be the limit– in that case, look for a toy that is similar in girth to your finger.
Length is also an important consideration– a toy that is too long can be controlled somewhat by not inserting it all the way, but too much length can be tricky when wearing a strap-on if the thrusting becomes hot and heavy. A toy that is too short can cause frustration if it slips out during strap-on play, or if it is not quite hitting your favorite spot!
When picking your first dildo, remember that body safe materials are silicone, glass and steel. And there should be no place for silicone blends or cheap PVC in your intimate life. Body safe sex toys are non porous, non toxic, completely safe to use and easy to wash. Cheap materials, on the other hand, are porous and accumulate bacteria over time. These toys cannot be washed properly and definitely shouldn’t be shared with anyone.
Dildos come in many shapes– some are very smooth while some have ridges, bumps or swirls. Some are quite straight while others have curves. Sometimes curves are built in for a specific purpose– to help aim a toy at the prostate or G-spot, for example.
For some people, finding a dildo that looks and feels like a penis is very important! Others prefer their dildos to be far-removed from the penis in design and feel. Fortunately, there are many different dildo designs and colors to choose from.
If you know how many fingers you like to use to masturbate with, you can measure the diameter of those fingers, which can help you decide on a size. Length you may have to eyeball, but we’d recommend avoiding huge dildos, at least for your first purchase.
Shape also matters a lot when it comes to deciding on a dildo. If you’re not bothered about realism, a dildo with a ridge on the shaft can feel great, while a curved dildo can help you hit your g-spot or prostate a little easier.
You should also go with an appearance that you like. Some dildos have balls and some don’t, some aren’t shaped like a penis, and some are available in a range of colors. Choose the one you like the look of most!
How To Use A Dildo
Setting the Mood
If you’ve ever closed the blinds, turned down the lights and lit a few candles before sex, you know how much a change in ambiance can help your mood. The same applies when you’re flying solo. Light a candle, put on some sexy music and dim the lights if it helps you. Lock the door so you don’t have to worry about someone barging in.
THE CORRECT SIZE DILDO
Like penises, dildos come in all shapes and sizes. All that variety exists for a reason: This is basically your only chance to find the perfect peen and usher it into your life via your wallet.
When it comes to size (which refers to both length and girth), it’s better to start small and then work your way up, says Dulcinea Pitagora, a psychotherapist and sex therapist.
That said, if you’re someone who knows you prefer a wider girth, go forth and buy a wider dildo. Or if you plan on using it for anal stimulation, find a shape that’s narrow at the end and gets wider toward the base.
LUBE IT UP
You can basically use a dildo however you please: During masturbation and/or during partnered sex, so long as you have consent. In all cases, use lube. Even if your selected D is slick, lubricant will only make it slicker and help stimulate arousal for you, whether you’re solo or with someone else. In other words, don’t sleep on dildo lubrication!
- Thoroughly lubricate the head of your dildo.
- By twisting your hand, spread lube around the top half of the shaft.
- Apply lube to your finger and rim the vaginal opening.
- Add lubricant to the inner & outer labia.
- Spread the labia open with your index & middle fingers.
- Push the shaft in & out slowly to spread the moisture evenly.
- Alternatively, twisting the shaft with your hand also helps to ease it in.